Leaving the kids behind while going on vacation allows you and your spouse to reconnect and strengthen your romantic relationship. Even if the kids seem a little upset it’s actually great for them to see their parents wanting alone time.
WHY YOU SHOULD HAVE A KIDS-FREE GETAWAY?
YOUR KIDS AREN’T THE ONLY ONES THAT NEED ATTENTION.
You marriage needs attention too. A strong relationship will likely handle a short season of neglect, but you’ll need a plan to ensure that the season doesn’t become the new normal. A marriage left on autopilot too long will eventually crash.
YOUR KIDS NEED IT.
I know it’s hard to wrap your mind around this point, but your kids need and deserve parents who are on the same page with life. Everything draws back to the family. Your family is only as strong as your walk with God, and your relationship with your spouse. Guard both!!!
YOUR MARRIAGE IS BEING WATCHED.
While the kids grow up, most of what they learn about marriage will come from watching Yours. It’s hard to leave your children, however, when children see parents loving each other, and taking time for themselves, it provides security and comfort. Putting your spouse before the children is healthy and getting away on a trip together is a great way to display this fact.
PUT INTO ACTION
When was the last time you got away with just your spouse?
Sit down with your spouse and plan a Kids-Free gateway in the near future. Having a getaway to look forward to in the future will bring excitement and anticipation to your relationship.
“It’s good for children to see that their parents value their relationship and that they’re nurturing it,” Amy Morin, relationship expert, and psychotherapist.
If your kids are likely to be excited about spending time with a caregiver or their grandparents, you may want to tell them a few days in advance. While it is important to prepare them, you also don’t want to give them so much time that they may fuss about your impending trip.
Establish a guideline about communication upfront. You might say you’ll call at bedtime to check in with everyone. A call a day will give both, parents and children, a sense of assurance. You also might ask the caregiver to send you a text message at certain times, such as when they’re getting ready for bed.
Time away helps your children gain independence, It gives them an opportunity to practice being without you. Younger kids can learn how to deal with slightly different rules. Older kids can practice solving problems on their own when you’re away. Your absence will teach them patience, and self-discipline while also giving them a chance to practice coping with uncomfortable emotions without you.
Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves -Romans 12:10